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The long haul

30 Friday Sep 2016

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My 12 day stretch at work has finally come to a close and I am going to attempt to use this weekend to get much needed rest – despite how unlikely that idea is.

I had to work with that terrible Press Operator that I wrote about yesterday again and last night did not go much better. Thankfully I did not lose any appendages but I could not wait to leave that place.

I got Manny a cat condo so he has a place to call his own out where the roommates and I spend most of our time. I also picked up a few groceries and actually intend on using them at some point during this week. My procrastination is having devastating effects on my bank account.

I need to get back into cooking and baking.

Anyway, with my exceptionally large paycheck that I got this week, I decided to get myself quite a bit of books. The problem is that I left them down stairs and am too tired right now to go and remind myself which ones I got.

That will be for another time.

I also got my best friend the extended versions of the Lord Of The Rings trilogy on DVD. He was quite happy about that, he immediately began watching The Fellowship of the Ring when I gave it to him.

Right now however I’m laying in bed while they are all out buying supplies for brewing beer. I can only hope that they don’t make too much of a mess or that they don’t damage anything. I am getting a little fed up with how my third roommate has a complete disregard for my stuff. He will learn the hard way that I’m not going to put up with that for very long.

But my eye’s are demanding that I get to sleep. I’ll update later.

 

Like a Falling Stone

03 Sunday Jul 2016

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“In your inquiry into the laws of nature always begin with the commonest and  most conspicuous phenomena, and train your scholar not to accept these phenomena as causes but as facts. I take a stone and pretend to place it in the air; I open my hand, the stone falls. I see Emile watching my action and I say, “Why does this stone fall?”

– Emile, Jean-Jacques Rousseau

I’ve been watching the “stone” fall over and over again in regards to my best friend’s behaviour and I am beginning to see the cause.

I need to elaborate.

After helping my best friend out so much after he lost his job back in January – which ultimately ended in him getting a new job, I’ve been noticing that he is finding different ways to distance himself from me – in both literal and figurative ways.

Him and I haven’t hung out by ourselves – with out the presence of a ‘third’ since April. He makes sure that him and I are NEVER alone together – or if we happen to be, he maintains a physical and emotional distance. In fact, the moment the ‘third roommate’ moved out of my little apartment, he immediately found a way to move out himself – into the house that his girlfriend lives.

This is irritating because in roughly a month, him and I along with his girlfriend, daughter and ‘third roommate’ will be sharing a house together. His insistence  to maintain a distance between us will result in problems.

Also I’m very worried that he is going to back out on this house deal and that has me incredibly worried. His body language tells me that he is not comfortable about something – and if he backs out, I won’t be able to afford the mortgage… this year anyway.

I don’t know what to do – a predicament that I am often finding myself in. For today however, I’ll continue to pack up my life and hopefully somethings will begin to resolve themselves. I might also create a craigslist ad looking for roommates for the Grand Ledge MI area come this August.

The distance, the despair…

05 Sunday Jun 2016

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Just over two weeks until the closing date gets here and I’ve heard nothing on the status of the mortgage and I’m quite worried. I think I’ve done everything right, I hope I’ve done everything right but I don’t know.

I have little confidence in myself.

Also: I haven’t really seen or talked to my best friend in the past four days despite him living with me. He’s developed a new sleep schedule that is the opposite of mine so when I’m up in the morning, he’s asleep. This weekend he invited me to go to a bon fire with one of his co workers, but I declined – things like that stress me out. I enjoy bon fires, I HATE being around a lot of people I don’t know. I try to avoid those types of social situations.

I miss the feeling of being happy. Like, being legitimately happy, and sometimes I think happiness is derived from the feeling of being wanted and I rarely get that feeling from anyone. I’m always worried, always wondering if I’ll be able to make my bills. I don’t know. I keep believing that getting into the house will change all this, but there is no way to be certain, is it a ‘the grass is greener’ sensation that I’m experiencing when thinking about living in the house as apposed to this tiny apartment?

I’ve finally am getting back into reading which is cool. I’m currently reading Robopocalypse by Daniel H. Wilson and I’m really enjoying it. I’m also simultaneously baking honey bread while doing this and I’m hoping that this loaf turns out better than the previous loaf, but who knows. Perhaps it’s the humidity but all my baking endeavors as of late have been complete flops – so I’m going to try not to fail with this one.

Of course it’s the weekend so both of the roommates are out, they’ll probably be returning while I’m in the process of doing something and will want me to go with them somewhere. I’m just not in the mood for it today, there is way too much on my mind and there is no distraction large enough to help ease the stress.

It’s either the house OR eviction, and things are coming down to the wire.

A home OR homelessness.

It’s an all or nothing situation and I wish I had some clarity in regards to the status of the situation.

No Rest for the Worried

30 Monday May 2016

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This weekend feels like one long cliff-hanger. I wish I had a way of knowing that in three weeks I will have a house to move into. I have one more piece of paper work to deal with – but that entails my bank cashing a check, so I’m waiting on the Credit Union for that.

I guess I won’t be at ease until after June 20 – when I absolutely know with out a doubt that I’ll be in that house. There are two other people who are also depending on this and the fact that if things don’t work out – there will be no other place to go.

For any of us.

Both of my roommates were gone for the past two days while I stayed at the apartment and cleaned. I didn’t do much else and I’m curious as to how their weekend’s went. My best friend of course is going to leave out any and all important details until those details become a problem at some point in the future.

But I’m sure there will be something that he will tell me all about his weekend… inevitably.

Leisure Time

28 Saturday May 2016

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Today my roommates are both gone so I can spend some important time cleaning out the bedroom and other areas of this apartment that need some TLC before I get to packing. I can say that I have reduced my mess quite substantially this morning and all I need to worry about is attaining boxes in which to place my large quantities of books.

I am enjoying myself, but I long for the days when I’ll be in the house spending time there instead of sitting uncomfortably here walking on eggshells in fear of bothering my neighbor in the other half of the duplex.

I can’t wait to get out of here.

I no longer consider this apartment ‘home’. ‘Home’ to me is a place that I can feel safe and secure. With an eviction hanging over my head like the sword of Damocles, I no longer feel “safe and secure” but, rather, extremely worried.

Tomorrow however, my best friend and I are going to have a talk with the third roommate about his inability to clean up after himself. He seems to think that my purpose is to be his maid. He leaves dirty food containers all over, allows trash to pile up around his air mattress and leaves dirty dishes in the kitchen sink for me to clean.

This type of stuff needs to come to an end. I’ve already warned him that if he doesn’t clean up after himself, he is literally begging for an ant infestation. I’m hoping that for once I won’t have one this year, but that isn’t looking likely as I see all his trash lying around all over. Why he thinks this is permissible is beyond me.

Today I spent a  little time reading about Michigan’s White Pine days back in the mid and late 1800’s. I found a book discussing it at the antique mall and I’ve finally had time to read a large portion of it. Those types of “local histories” interest me quite a bit. The logging industry is easily the most nation-altering industry in our history. For lack of a better term, logging ‘paved’ the way for other industries by clearing out land. It also transformed the landscape of this country from Maine to the Mississippi River.

I’ve been so busy dealing with the house stuff I’ve allowed very little leisure time for myself. As it can be seem from how scarce the blog entries have become – my ‘free time’ has been limited.

But soon that will change.

It needs to change.

 

Crazy, that’s how it goes…

14 Saturday May 2016

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In a very un-surprising turn of events, the day after my best friend’s ex promised him that she would no longer go crazy on him – she went crazy on him. Their inability to be in a relationship together will be what inevitably keeps them apart – so I should probably try not to worry about that situation too much.

I am, however, worried about the car loan that I co-signed for my best friend. Primarily because it’s such a large amount that I don’t want to be responsible for. I can only hope that he has his direct deposit set up so his initial payment isn’t late.

This morning I made him a Tasty recipe that he posted on his Facebook not so long ago.

Then we got high.

I get high quite a bit now, and I’m not sure whether or not I enjoy it. My productivity goes way down and it feels like I get a lot less done = a situation that I’m not particularly fond of.

We have a little over 2 more months of this before we can finally start calling our house ‘home’. The wait is very excruciating in so many ways. I still love my best friend, however more space is needed.

We’ll get through it.

His New Jeep

11 Wednesday May 2016

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My life has become a whirlwind of busy-ness.

Yesterday, with my help, my best friend was able to get the Jeep that he always wanted and get rid of his BMW that was nickel and diming him. His Jeep Liberty is beautiful and I’m happy that he is happy. The payments however are kind of high. We’ll figure it out though.

However the buying process took almost 4 hours keeping all three of us up well past our bed times making for an exhausting day today.

Monday also went by quite fast with us all being very busy. I cannot recall what that day even consisted of aside from  being exhausted.

In regards to the house, we are even further along in the process which is exciting. I’m doing all the work as soon as I’m notified about it. The next big thing on the agenda in regards to that is the appraisal which I hope takes place mid June because none of us would be able to come up with the money for it this month.

I’m currently exhausted and think heading to bed is my best option at the moment.

I promised my best friend an Italian themed dinner and hopefully I’ll be able to give him one in a few days with things slow down for a bit.

Birthday recap

07 Saturday May 2016

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Yesterday was, without a doubt, exhausting.

I got out of work at 7am after working from 11pm and wouldn’t make it to bed again until almost midnight. All in all, I was up for almost 28 hours.

My morning began by running to Biggby and grabbing myself a free coffee. I then learned that my roommates were unable to cash their checks at Walmart in Lansing and had to go to a different Walmart. But before doing that we had to rendezvous at the apartment because I had to print up insurance cards for my car.

That took a bit longer than I had hoped, it was almost 9am at this point and we still had several stops to make before getting to the house inspection that would start at 10am.

With the printed insurance cards done, we left for Ionia to get the paychecks cashed. I grabbed a few ingredients, made a quick stop at the bank then left once again, this time for the house in order to meet up with the inspection guy.

This was a great time. When we arrived the inspector was already there. We gave him his fee then went inside the house and explored. What was exciting is that we found MORE stuff that this house had to offer. For starters, the basement concealed a ‘secret room’ that I want to use for a pantry. Then to our surprise we found ANOTHER room we were unaware of behind the garage. This house has nothing but storage space all over.

The inspection went very well, the inspector was quite impressed with the place. While we were there, my best friends uncle also stopped by to look at the house. He was quite impressed. After a few hours we had a talk about the condition of the house then we all left and got something to eat.

Following that the next item on the agenda was to open a joint account for the three of us in order to make our house and insurance payments. This process took quite some time. We were at the credit union for at least 2 hours setting all of that stuff up. Following that we all went on a top secret mission that consisted of buying weed.

OK, so it wasn’t that ‘top secret’ but enjoyable none-the-less.

The sun was beginning to go down by the time we FINALLY started heading back home in which case we decided to go for a quick ‘roadie’ before ordering a pizza for the evening.  The entire day went by so fast. I’ve probably forgotten parts of it in fact.

It’s just very enjoyable to be around my best friend so much though.

Blueberry Muffin Insurance

02 Monday May 2016

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I wanted blueberry muffins this morning – but I knew that the recipe I typically use, I lacked some essential ingredients for so I went online and looked one up that I could do with what I had available – and let me tell you, the blueberry muffin recipe that I found turned out phenomenal – the only thing that I would add to this recipe that makes it even better is to spread butter over the tops of the muffins when they come out of the oven in order to soften the crumb. That is the ONLY addition that this recipe needs. I’ll be making another batch of these soon.

It’s yet another day with the roommates and I’m enjoying it for the most part. I had a little discussion with the insurance guy about the new car insurance policy and it looks like my best friend and I will have to set up a joint account in order for that to work. I think it is a good option – the problem is that we need to figure out the best date that will work for both of us in regards to making the payment. We currently pay our insurance on two different dates each month, he gets paid every two weeks, I get paid every week.

My best friend is currently sleeping so getting a joint account set up right now isn’t an option. I prefer he gets his rest, the demands of the insurance salesman can wait. I love how my best friends car insurance rate will be cut in half, I just don’t want to inconvenience him with this joint account set-up.

There is just something so comforting about having my best friend so close all the time. I can’t exactly describe what it is, but I surely enjoy his presence. He’s really an incredible person, I’m so glad he’s in my life..

 

 

Getting By

30 Saturday Apr 2016

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If I were to put my best friend on the same car insurance plan that I’m on – it would literally cut his monthly payment in half, something that would help him out a lot. This is the news I received after finally convincing him to talk to the people that I’m going to get the house insurance through. When I told him his approximate new rate, he was clearly excited about that.

The entire purpose of getting this house however IS to make our lives easier – which includes finding ways to save money. One of his largest payments each month is his car insurance, so having that cut in half will be very beneficial to him.

When we are finally able to move into that house, it will be a new beginning for us in so many ways, and that is exciting. Right now he is with his daughter for the weekend – I can only imagine how that is going.

He’s going to be doing a lot of growing up in the next few months which I’m not exactly sure if he is prepared for or not. I suppose that I will be doing quite a bit of growing up myself as well, but in the end I think that it will be quite worth it.

So far living together in this one bedroom apartment is going pretty well – I think. I hope that I’m not wrong about that. I realize that there is limited space and that I don’t have all the resources that I should have to take on two more people, but I’m doing what I can to make things work.

Right now I’m baking breakfast – a french toast bake that should be ready when my third roommate gets home from work. I’m trying to cut down on food waste as much as possible, so the french toast bake is being made using the remainder of the bread I made a few days ago. I hope that it turns out alright.

french toast bake

I’ll be honest though – I do miss my ‘alone time’, but I also have a tendency to miss my best friend when I don’t see him for an extended period of time – and therefore I do enjoy that aspect of this rather crowded situation.

I just wish that I was getting some overtime at work so that I had some extra income. That part is entirely frustrating. This week is rent week which means that my entire paycheck is already gone and the week has barely even started.

My life is in a melancholy sort of state right now. I wish I could get a grasp on what is happening.